The road less traveled…

My partner and I were attempting to become pregnant. For many reasons – including my sanity – we have put that on the back burner for now and are just working on walking down the road less traveled. We've been through Katrina – moved to Colorado – and our next adventure is headed to California.

Not so bad December 14, 2010

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First things first – Jump over to Operation New Dawn and congratulate them on their BFP!! So many exciting announcements in blogland lately – here’s hoping that it rubs off on me!

So as you know we went to see the therapist for our consultation today.  I have to say that it was much more relaxing and informative than I expected it to be.  She went over some legal issues we will run into when being in a same sex relationship and having a child and even recommended a lawyer who handles second parent adoptions in Colorado.  She also went through some research on how to broach the subject of how your child was created once the question is asked. In a nutshell, the research satates:

  • It’s better when the subject is an open topic and there’s not a lot of secrecy around it.
  • Better for it not to really be a big deal.
  • Don’t use the words “dad” or “father” to describe the donor – it creates this fantasy person in the child’s head and can cause massive disappointment if they do get in contact and the magical connection isn’t there.
  • Donor kids typically have no long term issues with abandonment – much different than adopted kids
  • Teach your child that your family is really not “different”, just one of the many types of families.

I tell you, most of this is exactly what Lori and I have discussed ourselves, so it was actually kind of nice to get confirmation that we were already on the right page.

Next step is to order our little swimmers – which I will probably get done this week.  Then, when the time is right, start POAS till I get my smiley!

I so hope that we can do it before our Florida trip!



Back to the waiting game…. December 9, 2010

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I’m beginning to realize that I’m completely addicted to checking the blogs that I follow.  At least 10 times a day at work I’m clicking on my little shortcut to Google Reader HOPING AND HOPING that someone has updated something!  This is especially true when nothing exciting is going on over in my world.  Right now it’s back to the waiting game.  I’m currently waiting for:

  • bloodwork to come back from the Dr.’s visit.  We need to find out if I am or the donor is CMV positive.  I had no idea what this was or why it mattered, but apparently this is a virus that, if contracted during pregnancy, can cause birth defects.  90% of people have had it and it doesn’t matter if your donor has because you have the antibodies.  However, if you are one of the 10% who is negative, then you HAVE to have a donor that is negative.
  • to purchase the specimen – for the reason stated above
  • for AF to arrive so I can notify the doctor
  • to POAS for a smiley so I can notify the doctor
  • to find out if the timing is going to be right to do it at the end of the month or if we are going to have to wait because of the Florida trip
  • did I mention notify the doctor?

So, at the moment, I’m (not so) patiently waiting for you all to update your blogs so I will have some reading to pass the time! 🙂


Therapy Session December 8, 2010

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ok….now that the excitement is over….

So apparently, in the US, if you use a donor (whether sperm or egg) you must go through a therapy consultation before they will do the IUI.  I called yesterday and made our appointment with the therapist for Tuesday at 8:30 am.  I’m not entirely sure why, but I’m SO NERVOUS about this! When I made the appointment, the therapist made sure to let me know that this session is not to prove that we love each other, but just to go over the legal stuff and how to talk to a baby…….ok?

Anyway, it is what it is, I just hope that this is our month!


Seriously?!?!?!? December 7, 2010

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It was like night and day! (the Seriously in the title was just a bit of added shock value 🙂 ).  As a matter of fact, the only thing that I can use that phrase for is “Seriously, that’s all there is to it????”.

Lori and I walked into the office to a very warm feeling.  The waiting room was beautiful and Georgia on My Mind was playing in the background (MY KINDA MUSIC).  The receptionist/nurses were so sweet and inviting. They brought me back to sit in the “flower chairs” to wait for the doc (named the flower chairs because they have the most hideous flower pattern on them that I have ever seen!).  After waiting only a few the doctor comes out.  She’s really tall, fairly skinny, and laughs at the most random times.  I LOVE her.

She didn’t jump straight to medicine/testing/ultrasound every week.  Said with my age and history, it’s best just to go natural cycle to start.  Sounds like just what I wanted at the last visit! 

So the plan is to do my OPK- call her when i get a positive and they will schedule me for IUI the next day!  Hopefully the first one will be the end of this month (timing willing).  I’d like for the first week of my 2ww to be spent in FL!


Headed to the doctor

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We’re about to head out to the new doctor….here’s hoping this is a good experience. We’re both excited…but VERY nervous.

Expect an update this evening.


I Got a Smiley! December 2, 2010

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IF we were going to inseminate this month, it would be tonight!  I had a feeling today so I went ahead and POAS and got my smiley.  Kinda makes me sad that we are not going to get to at least try this month, but I am saving that 1K to pay for the treatments we are going to do at the doctor, so that’s a good thing.

Our appointment at the new doctor is this coming Tuesday – I’m cautiously excited about this one.  I hope that all goes well and we can be pregnant before the new year! 


Decisions… November 22, 2010

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So we’ve made a decision about how we are going to move forward with this…
          Doing this at home has not resulted in our desired outcome and our initial decision was to do at home for 3 months and then move on to IUI.  One of the 3 months was definitely a bust, but we’ve decided to move onto IUI anyway.  Hopefully this will make our odds a little better than us playing doctor at home. 

          We’re using a doctor that a really good friend of ours has used and been successful with 2 times.  She’s also a bigger girl, so hopefully we won’t have another issue like the last time I looked into using a doctor.  I called this morning and made our appointment: December 7th.  Unfortunately that means we’ll be missing this cycle, but hopefully we can do our first IUI at the end of December.  This will depend on if we get everything done and my ovulation happens before I have to leave for Florida for our big sales conference. 

Hopefully I have a better time with this little set back than I have had with our TWW!


Thank you – very much

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I wanted to take a minute to thank those of you who commented on my last post.  I also want to thank those of you who read but don’t comment (I am sometimes one of those as well).  Your comments were much appreciated.

I’m attempting to be positive.  Attempting to hold back Veruca.  Attempting to not get completely discouraged in all of this because I’m well aware there are those that have been trying for much longer than I.  There are also those who will never fulfill their dream of carrying a child of their own.

Here’s to a new cycle, new hope, and a new chance!


CD1 November 21, 2010

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That’s all I have to say about that


14 DPO November 19, 2010

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          I sit here and the all too familiar feeling in my tummy is a sign that my fears were right….we aren’t pregnant.  Slight cramping just means that AF is about to rear her ugly head.  For some reason, this time is hitting me harder than the last ones.  Maybe it’s because the holidays are around the corner and I wanted a beautiful little reason to celebrate this year.  Maybe it’s because I wont’ see my family this year for the Holidays and I wanted my own little family to be closer to being complete. 

          I’ve taken 3 EPT HPTs, all 3 BFN.  At this moment I just want to crawl into my bed and cry.  I know this isn’t rational – that it takes 3-6 months in good cases for it to work.  I know this is technically only our 2nd try (one try was WAY off the mark), but that isn’t making today any easier.


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