The road less traveled…

My partner and I were attempting to become pregnant. For many reasons – including my sanity – we have put that on the back burner for now and are just working on walking down the road less traveled. We've been through Katrina – moved to Colorado – and our next adventure is headed to California.

Seriously, it has made all the difference… August 2, 2012

Filed under: TTC — 2Lesbians&Baby @ 3:07 pm

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;       


Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,  


And both that morning equally lay

 In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

 I doubted if I should ever come back.  


 I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

 Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

 I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.


I love this poem.  I really always have.  Every since the first time I heard it all I saw were the possibilities around me.  Sometimes the road less traveled by is what makes you who you are.  Sometimes you take a risk and it pays off in rewards that are so much more than you could ever imagine them being.  Sometimes it just takes a leap of faith.

Faith is the understanding that one of two things will happen –

Either you will land on solid ground, or you will sprout wings and fly.

Today, I sprouted wings…

This is my 3rd week at my new job.  It’s been a rough transition (although I love what I do).  Getting used to working from home has been a big deal.  My first few paychecks are not going to be up to par because I’m new and I’ve been worried that maybe I didn’t make the right decision in doing this.  I was worried that maybe I should not have jumped from OTJ…

Today is the day I finally got around to reading and going through my benefits package for my insurance.  The insurance that covers both Shayne and I because the company is amazing and recognizes same sex relationships even if the government doesn’t. I got down to the In-vitro Fertilization section and it says this:

Benefits are limited as follows:


Limited to three in-vitro fertilization attempts per live birth, subject to a maximum benefit of $100,000 per Covered Person during the entire period of time he or she is enrolled for coverage under the Policy.  This limit includes Benefits for Infertility medications provided under the Outpatient Prescription Drug Rider.

I just kept reading.  It didn’t even register.  I backed up and read it again…and again…and again…

And then I called the insurance company to get clarification – their system was down and they told me to call back tomorrow.

Then I picked up the phone and called my HR admin.  I simply asked her if we have coverage for infertility treatments.  Her answer, “Absolutely, I’ll send over what I know because UHC’s system is down”.

I just received this email:


Thanks for your question: I have some information on this topic:

  • I called UHC back, and we confirmed that our plan covers in-vitro fertilization as follows:
    • 3 in-vitro attempts per live birth. (This says to me that it’s 3 tries per child. What we weren’t positive about is what happens if you do 3 attempts and it doesn’t result in a live birth. The benefits systems were still down, so we’ll need to follow up next week).
    • $100,000 benefit maximum for in-vitro/fertilization; the maximum is for the full length of time you are on the plan. The maximum includes any infertility drugs (the example they gave was Clomid).




And now, I’m a bundled ball of tears sitting at my desk because it’s possible!  It’s possible financially, physically, emotionally, with Shayne…It’s possible for me to afford the process as well as feed my family.  It’s all possible…

So, when you come to a decision that needs to be made in your life PLEASE (I’m begging you) don’t take the easy road.  Please do what you feel you need to do no matter how many other people are running in the other direction. 


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