The road less traveled…

My partner and I were attempting to become pregnant. For many reasons – including my sanity – we have put that on the back burner for now and are just working on walking down the road less traveled. We've been through Katrina – moved to Colorado – and our next adventure is headed to California.

Another Day in Paradise! July 25, 2012

Filed under: TTC — 2Lesbians&Baby @ 2:02 pm


It’s amazing the difference you feel in your life when you are happy with work.  I didn’t realize just how miserable I was feeling until all the unnecessary drama and stress associated with my job are gone.  I wake up about 7:55am – jump in traffic (headed from my bedroom to the basement) – grab my water and am at work by 8am.  I don’t have distractions from other people I work with.  I can zone everything out and just sit and get my job done.  Most of the time what is “necessary” for me to do each day is done by about 11 am.  Then I’m able to do some laundry, pick up the house, and hang with my wife (as long as I’m close enough to the phone to hear if it rings).

ImageTraining at my new job – don’t I look happier?!?!

So now you are asking, what do I do?  I’m in sales – I have been since I can remember.  It’s actually one of the things that I can honestly say (and believe) that I’m very good at.  I can pick up the phone and talk to people all day long.  My friend once told me I could sell a ketchup Popsicle to a lady wearing white gloves (LOL I liked that better than ice cubes to Eskimos!).  The company I work for now has me selling data – basically we aggregate information about individuals with High Net Worth (VERY VERY WEALTHY individuals – I’m not on the list) and we sell that information to companies who want to market to those people (wealth managers, high-end retailers, luxury commodities, etc).  So all day I get to contact companies with a great product – it’s fantastic.

Working from home has also opened up the ability to get out and do more.  I get off work by 3-3:30 and we can be out of the house and on our way by 4.  When I was working in the office, I got off at 4:30, had to drive home (at least an hour in traffic), come home and eat something.  By that time I was so exhausted we didn’t do anything but flop in front of the TV.  Now we are out every afternoon doing something – hanging out with friends, at the park, fishing in our new boats (I’ll write more about that later on in the post).

Speaking of TV – we don’t’ have one anymore and it’s SO liberating!!!

We’ve also decided that we are moving to California.  There are quite a few reasons for this:

  • Shayne feels better when we are in CA.  It seems that her physical ailments diminish significantly when we were visiting.  I’m not sure if it’s the weather, the altitude, or just her soul needing to be near the ocean, but I would move to the moon if that’s what it took for her to feel better.
  • We’ve been in CO for about 8 years – this is the longest Shayne has ever lived in a state and the shortest I have. 
  • We LOVE the beach.  Being in CO is great – and beautiful – but we both miss the ability to jump in the car and head to the beach.  The nearest one we have here is a lake and it’s about 5 hours north in Nebraska.
  • Sometimes it’s just time for a change.  We’ve been through a lot since Katrina here in CO.  It’s going to be nice just to be able to start from scratch again and get back on track.
  • I’d like a gay community.  Denver isn’t “anti-gay” by any means, but there really isn’t anywhere for lesbians to gather (that’s not a meat market anyway).  In New Orleans we had a neighborhood bar that was basically a family and tons of lesbian friends.  We both miss that dearly.

So that’s the good news – the bad news is that we are stuck in this lease until October of next year so we will be here for at least another year (unless I can figure out a way to wiggle out of it without it costing us a fortune!).

Anyone know anything about California?  I’m starting to research rentals (we’ll rent for the first year at least) but not sure where I should go?  I want to be a decent trek to the beach (less than 3 hours, preferably less than 1 hour), not close to any MAJOR cities (no LA, SF, or SD), not gang ridden, and not massively expensive (3 bedrooms, no less than 1000 sq ft for about 1K-1200/month).  Any ideas where to start?

So, boats you ask.  Yes, we went out and purchased 2 personal pontoon boats.  They are seriously the best investment we’ve ever made (right up there with my scooter anyway).  Let’s show you how we look on them!


I caught her off guard…


It was about to pour!


Doesn’t she look happier too???


That’s my baby


Yes, my hair is a mess – but the fish don’t care!


My sister and I


And now just some beautiful photos of the area we go to.ImageImage

So, that’s where we are right now.  Basically living and loving life and taking it one day at a time.  Things are getting better all the time!


One Response to “Another Day in Paradise!”

  1. MommaL Says:

    Have you thought of Sacramento? There isn’t a huge gay community, but it’s a pretty solid one … not a lot of drama that I’m aware of. It’s 2 hours to anywhere you might want to go – San Francisco, the beach, the mountains, Lake Tahoe, etc. The weather is fairly mild (3-digit temps happen in summer, but thankfully not too often) and dry, not humid. It’s definitely affordable and there is a lot of fun stuff to do. =)

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