The road less traveled…

My partner and I were attempting to become pregnant. For many reasons – including my sanity – we have put that on the back burner for now and are just working on walking down the road less traveled. We've been through Katrina – moved to Colorado – and our next adventure is headed to California.

For Hope May 6, 2011

Filed under: TTC — 2Lesbians&Baby @ 8:03 am

Thank you all for your words of encouragement – I’m down to only 2 days and we’ll test…..still anxious but I love the idea that if we don’t its because this egg is not the right kid….Thanks again.

Hope over at Baby Bump was wondering about the process for changing Lori’s name to Shayne. I’m having a hard time REMEMBERING to call her Shayne, but the process it self isn’t THAT difficult

  1. Get fingerprinted and send that information to the FBI and CBI (Colorado Bureau of Investigation) for a criminal background check (cost: about $60.00)
  2. Complete the name change petition.  Attach  fingerprints, criminal record, etc.
  3. Get an order for publication (the Judge signing an order saying you have to publicly announce your name change)
  4. Announce publicly (in a newspaper, for example) that you are filing for a name change (cost: varies based on the newspaper you choose)
  5. Obtain an order for name change on official documents (birth certificate, SS card, etc)
  6. File your documents with the court (cost: $100.00)
  7. Publish your proposed name change 3 times within 21 days of the Newspaper publication (I have no idea what that means, but we’ll cross that bridge when we get there)
  8. Obtain a signed copy of the Order for Name Change from the court

It’s a fairly simple process, but it takes a while to get it done.

As far as why she is changing her name, this has been something she’s wanted to do for quite some time.  Lori (Shayne) has Gender Identity Disorder.  She identifies herself as a man.  She’s been talking about this for a very long time, but never seemed interested in actually going through any process to change.  Through the therapy that we’ve been going to, she’s finally came out and said that she actually wants to do things to have the world see her as she sees herself.  She doesn’t want to have full surgery or anything, but she does want to change her name and possibly look into taking T.

Anyway – that’s the process!

 

4 Responses to “For Hope”

  1. isa Says:

    I’m surprised about the fingerprint stuff–when I changed my (last) name I didn’t have to do that, but I guess every state is different. Congratulations to Shayne for making this change and taking steps to come out and have the world accept him for who he is!

  2. Kirsten Says:

    I’m glad to see you are feeling a bit better.
    I was wondering about that process for her too. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Liz Says:

    That’s interesting. When I changed my last name I had to do all of that except for the whole publishing it in the paper part. I wonder now if I was supposed to do that and didn’t know? Hmm. It was a pain either way and I actually ended up spelling my last name wrong on my driver’s licence so I had to go to the DMV twice in one month, a hell like no other.
    Fingers Crossed!

  4. Hope Says:

    Yay 2 more days! Thank you for elaborating on the how and why. I could pick your brain for hours. Gender identity is a topic Hope and I can’t get enough of. I think its great that you are comfortable with this and that Lori feels comfortable transitioning into showing the world who She Really sees herself as. Go Shayne!


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